There have been a lot of thoughts this past week. I finished reading Facing Codependence while I was in the middle of reading Crucial Confrontations. Reports on both of these books at a different time. I hope to finish the Confrontations book this weekend.
It's quite interesting because I'm not very confronting at all. I have this habit of accomodating others and not standing up for myself, as justified as it may be at times. I didn't realize how much this really matters until a little while ago. Something was bothering me. I let it slide, decided to grin and bear it. It happened again, grin again. The third time I will have to say that I responded in all the "how not tos" in the book and it led to some serious tension between myself and the parties involved. Had I said it the first time, when I was less emotional about it, I have no doubt that the end would have been completely different. Had I finished that book a few weeks ago instead of letting it sit in my purse, it would have been different.
At the same time, I think confronting oneself is equally difficult. It is a pretty frequent occurence for me to call myself out on stuff. I know when I'm slacking and when I can do better, but making myself follow through with it is different. I wonder if the techniques used in the book can be used in a self-talk situation. I suppose I should finish the book and see if I agree or not.
